Ivy Jean – 3 Months

February 16, 2017

I cannot believe our sweet Ivy Jean is three months old today. She is our littlest love and greatest gift. If you are a newer reader, you can find more about our infertility journey and her birth story on my about page. Part of the reader survey revealed you all would like more personal/mom/lifestyle posts, so I thought I would share a little 3 month update on life with our sweet girl. Keep in mind, she arrived 6 weeks early. At 13 weeks of age, her gestational age is only 7 weeks.

Parenting is simultaneously the best and hardest thing I have ever done. It has exceeded my expectations in all ways. I have felt love stronger and faster than I imagined possible, been humbled more quickly and thoroughly than I care to admit, eaten my words more than a time or two, come face to face with the ugliness of my own impatience and selfishness, and more. As much in life, Ivy was never a guarantee for us. I have moments where I just marvel and thank God over and over for her life. I also have moments where I really miss not smelling like spit up. Just keeping it real. Being her mom is such a privilege.

3 months 8



Russ and I have loosely followed Baby Wise which has been really helpful for us. Creatures of habit doing this whole parenting thing for the first time, it helped us know what to expect and gave us a framework for our days. After spending time in the NICU, we also came home on an autopilot of sorts from our routine there. In the beginning, Ivy was so little we fed her every 2.5-3 hours like clockwork waking her up if she was sleeping. At 6 weeks we went longer stretches at night before transitioning to our current schedule. Below is of course our ideal schedule. Naps don’t always happen, feeding times adjust based on hunger, etc. We are not so rigid that we won’t throw the schedule out the window if she needs something different. I will say, this has worked so well for us. It helps me know how to anticipate her needs, know what might be wrong if she is upset, and know roughly how our day will go.

  • 5-5:30 am – Our day starts with the first feeding. She usually goes right back down and sleeps until 8.
  • 8 am – second feeding, wake time, nap
  • 11 – third feeding, wake time, nap
  • 1:30 pm – fourth feeding, wake time, nap
  • 4:00 – fifth feeding, wake time, nap
  • 7:00 – sixth feeding, wake time, nap
  • 9:30-10 – seventh and last feeding then bed for the night



As we anticipated Ivy’s arrival, I knew I wanted to breastfeed. I didn’t know how hard it would be. I ended up having a personal issue I won’t go into here, but it made breastfeeding very painful. After struggling through for 12 weeks, Ivy is now exclusively bottle feeding with a combination of formula/breast milk before transiting to full formula.



I’m not sure I am really far enough in or feel qualified enough to share any products I think are must-haves that other moms wouldn’t be better qualified to share. I will say, the woombie swaddle has been something we really love and use all the time. It’s a zipper swaddle that makes things so easy in the middle of the night. She is also rarely in clothes like this (like never). We opt for easy zip up onesies.


Highs and Lows

There are too many highs to name! In recent days, Ivy Jean has started cooing and grinning (just a little), and it is simply the best ever. It’s really almost comical how excited it makes Russ and me. The hardest part has been that Ivy has acid reflux. She spits up all the time. We hate seeing her in pain, and it makes feedings difficult. It does seem to have gotten better with time, and she is on some medicine. I also go back to work next week. It’s neither a high or low, just something I am anticipating. I think it will be a good balance for me to be able to work part-time, and I am grateful I have the opportunity and flexibility to do it.



I have good and bad days. Days where I feel like I’ve got this mom thing and days where I feel like a total failure. I have been surprised at how connected my emotions are to how she does. Russ and I are going on our first real date night this weekend thanks to my parents. We’ve each snuck out while the other watches her. We also grabbed coffee once while his parents where here, but this will be our first true dinner date. I’m looking forward to it!

In regards to parenting and this post, my only thoughts are that every situation is different, every woman is different, and every baby is different. I sure never thought I’d go through IVF and then have a preemie baby. This mom thing is hard enough as it is. We all need to support each other regardless of how we feed, schedule, diaper, (insert anything else here), our babies. I have appreciated your love and support in this journey more than you know.

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  • Reply Siffat Haider February 19, 2017 at 1:59 pm

    I can’t believe she’s 3 months old already! I’m totally with you, being a mother is definitely a privilege, I hope I can live up to it one day when I have a baby. Also, Ivy Jean is an absolute doll!

  • Reply Lola February 19, 2017 at 8:32 am

    My gosh, she is the cutest baby ever! 😀 I like how you say that being her mother is a privilege. I never thought of raising a child as a privilege, an honour…but it does make a lot of sense and it makes me think different about motherhood.
    There is no such thing as a perfect mother, you learn as you go but I am confident you are doing your best and well, Ivy is also lucky to have a mom and dad like you two! 🙂
    Now I am getting all emotional, haha.


  • Reply style frontier February 19, 2017 at 8:17 am

    she looks super cute!


    style frontier

  • Reply Carmen Jny (carmitive) February 19, 2017 at 2:54 am

    Aaw she is so adorable! I like how you describe that every mom and every child is different. The idea of a very own mother-daughter/son experience sounds wonderful <3
    xx, Carmen – http://www.carmitive.com

  • Reply Lucinda Skeats February 19, 2017 at 12:42 am

    She is the cutest little sweet pea!

    Xx, Lucinda


  • Reply Mica February 18, 2017 at 7:26 pm

    She is adorable and wow she’s cooing and rolling, that’s awesome! Especially as she was so early. You’re definitely doing motherhood right, she’s beautiful and really thriving. Kinda jealous she’s sleeping so much through the night so early too, you lucky lady! 🙂

    It is so incredibly upsetting when you can’t breastfeed like you wanted to. There is so much that can go wrong and so many hurdles along the way. While yes it’s easy and natural, those first few weeks are anything but as you both need to figure it out. Mastitis is horrible too. It’s a battle! It was easier second time around for me, I’m still breastfeeding now but with my oldest I’d given up well before this point. As long as baby’s happy and fed that’s all that matters.

    Hope your return to work goes well! It is an emotional time.

    Away From The Blue Blog

  • Reply TOUCH OF GS February 18, 2017 at 5:33 pm

    Ohmygod Ivy Jean is the cutest little girl ever! Congrats Amy! x


  • Reply Molly Hogan February 18, 2017 at 5:02 pm

    She is precious! Congrats, Mama!


  • Reply Vale February 18, 2017 at 1:20 pm

    Ivy is such a beautiful baby and you are doing your best in this new journey. I don’t have kids but my best friends shared similar stories with me. Keep up the good work and be proud of yourself, being a mom is the hardest but also greatest task in the world =) Kisses

    Fashion and Cookies – fashion & beauty blog

  • Reply sprinklesofstyle February 18, 2017 at 7:29 am

    Aww congratulations – this is such a lovely post and it’s overwhelming how quickly time passes by as we don’t realise!

    Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

    Layla xx


  • Reply La Veine February 18, 2017 at 6:08 am

    What a beautiful baby, congratulations! I can only imagine how amazing and hard it must be to be a mother. I’m sure you’re doing an amazing job 🙂


  • Reply Tina Phan February 18, 2017 at 1:52 am

    How is she already 3 months old! I admire everything that you juggle between your job, being a mom, and maintaining this blog so well!


  • Reply Nicole Layne February 17, 2017 at 7:42 pm

    Thanks for sharing this update! I agree with the survey. She is adorable and I’m glad you are starting to find your routine, but also trying to find time for yourself. Thank you for being honest about the ups and downs. I hope you guys have a great date night!

    Nicole to the Nines

  • Reply Adri Cisneros February 17, 2017 at 7:17 pm

    Aww she’s so cute! I love when you share updates of her on Stories, so this post is also great! As you know, I work in the parenting world, so I know how hard it is. And I have to say I’m impressed with how you still keep up your blog and are being a great mom.
    xo Adri | http://www.adrilately.blogspot.com

  • Reply Cielo Fronteras February 17, 2017 at 6:43 pm

    Ivy Jean is so pretty and already a fashionista just like her Mommy! =) Love the photos! =)

    – Cielo
    Mermaid in Heels

  • Reply Jackie February 17, 2017 at 6:38 pm

    I loved this post! It seems like you’re doing a fantastic job so far! She is absolutely adorable 🙂

    Something About That

  • Reply Karly @ Miss in the Midwest February 17, 2017 at 5:44 pm

    She is such a doll, Amy! You all are so blessed. I appreciate your honesty in his post as I’m sure it helps other new mom’s. I hope everything continues to go well and improve!

  • Reply Valerie Price February 17, 2017 at 4:43 pm

    She is absolutely beautiful! Thanks for sharing this post, and I hope you all have a wonderful weekend!


  • Reply Merritt Beck February 17, 2017 at 4:38 pm

    She couldn’t be any cuter! I hope you all enjoy the weekend!

    The Style Scribe

  • Reply The Fashion Folks February 17, 2017 at 2:46 pm

    She looks absolutely adorable and I’m so happy to hear that she’s doing well! Hope you’ll have a lovely dinner date this weekend gorgeous! Xx


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