Ivy Jean – 3 Months

February 16, 2017

I cannot believe our sweet Ivy Jean is three months old today. She is our littlest love and greatest gift. If you are a newer reader, you can find more about our infertility journey and her birth story on my about page. Part of the reader survey revealed you all would like more personal/mom/lifestyle posts, so I thought I would share a little 3 month update on life with our sweet girl. Keep in mind, she arrived 6 weeks early. At 13 weeks of age, her gestational age is only 7 weeks.

Parenting is simultaneously the best and hardest thing I have ever done. It has exceeded my expectations in all ways. I have felt love stronger and faster than I imagined possible, been humbled more quickly and thoroughly than I care to admit, eaten my words more than a time or two, come face to face with the ugliness of my own impatience and selfishness, and more. As much in life, Ivy was never a guarantee for us. I have moments where I just marvel and thank God over and over for her life. I also have moments where I really miss not smelling like spit up. Just keeping it real. Being her mom is such a privilege.

3 months 8



Russ and I have loosely followed Baby Wise which has been really helpful for us. Creatures of habit doing this whole parenting thing for the first time, it helped us know what to expect and gave us a framework for our days. After spending time in the NICU, we also came home on an autopilot of sorts from our routine there. In the beginning, Ivy was so little we fed her every 2.5-3 hours like clockwork waking her up if she was sleeping. At 6 weeks we went longer stretches at night before transitioning to our current schedule. Below is of course our ideal schedule. Naps don’t always happen, feeding times adjust based on hunger, etc. We are not so rigid that we won’t throw the schedule out the window if she needs something different. I will say, this has worked so well for us. It helps me know how to anticipate her needs, know what might be wrong if she is upset, and know roughly how our day will go.

  • 5-5:30 am – Our day starts with the first feeding. She usually goes right back down and sleeps until 8.
  • 8 am – second feeding, wake time, nap
  • 11 – third feeding, wake time, nap
  • 1:30 pm – fourth feeding, wake time, nap
  • 4:00 – fifth feeding, wake time, nap
  • 7:00 – sixth feeding, wake time, nap
  • 9:30-10 – seventh and last feeding then bed for the night



As we anticipated Ivy’s arrival, I knew I wanted to breastfeed. I didn’t know how hard it would be. I ended up having a personal issue I won’t go into here, but it made breastfeeding very painful. After struggling through for 12 weeks, Ivy is now exclusively bottle feeding with a combination of formula/breast milk before transiting to full formula.



I’m not sure I am really far enough in or feel qualified enough to share any products I think are must-haves that other moms wouldn’t be better qualified to share. I will say, the woombie swaddle has been something we really love and use all the time. It’s a zipper swaddle that makes things so easy in the middle of the night. She is also rarely in clothes like this (like never). We opt for easy zip up onesies.


Highs and Lows

There are too many highs to name! In recent days, Ivy Jean has started cooing and grinning (just a little), and it is simply the best ever. It’s really almost comical how excited it makes Russ and me. The hardest part has been that Ivy has acid reflux. She spits up all the time. We hate seeing her in pain, and it makes feedings difficult. It does seem to have gotten better with time, and she is on some medicine. I also go back to work next week. It’s neither a high or low, just something I am anticipating. I think it will be a good balance for me to be able to work part-time, and I am grateful I have the opportunity and flexibility to do it.



I have good and bad days. Days where I feel like I’ve got this mom thing and days where I feel like a total failure. I have been surprised at how connected my emotions are to how she does. Russ and I are going on our first real date night this weekend thanks to my parents. We’ve each snuck out while the other watches her. We also grabbed coffee once while his parents where here, but this will be our first true dinner date. I’m looking forward to it!

In regards to parenting and this post, my only thoughts are that every situation is different, every woman is different, and every baby is different. I sure never thought I’d go through IVF and then have a preemie baby. This mom thing is hard enough as it is. We all need to support each other regardless of how we feed, schedule, diaper, (insert anything else here), our babies. I have appreciated your love and support in this journey more than you know.

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  • Reply Michelle Orsi February 16, 2017 at 9:57 am

    Love this post! SO sweet! Her little outfit is the cutest


  • Reply Threads for Thomas February 16, 2017 at 9:54 am

    Happy three months Ivy Jean! Her outfit is adorable. I love reading your updates. Feeling one day like a good mom, then the next as a failure is something I think all us moms feel, and will be experiencing it for the rest of our lives!

  • Reply Suze @LuxuryColumnist February 16, 2017 at 9:34 am

    Isn’t she just adorable! That’s great that you have a date night planned, wishing you a relaxing evening

    Suze | LuxuryColumnist

  • Reply Lyddiegal February 16, 2017 at 9:22 am

    She is so beautiful Amy! Glad to hear you and your family are doing well, even if you are still working hard at adjusting and trying to figure it all out.

  • Reply Denise Kokinis February 16, 2017 at 9:21 am

    Awww this is so sweet and cute! What a little cutie she is and what an outfit. I have no doubt that you and Russ are the best parents for her and what a blessing for you both!
    Wishing you so much success and love in your parenting journey!

    Denise | Fashion Love Letters

  • Reply Rachel February 16, 2017 at 9:18 am

    I can’t believe Ivy Jean is already 3 months old! She is just darling and I love her Valentine’s Day outfit! Enjoy your date night dinner this weekend and good luck with going back to work next week. That’s wonderful you have the flexibility of part-time. Have a great weekend!

    xo, Rachel
    A Blonde’s Moment

  • Reply Shannon Jenkins February 16, 2017 at 9:05 am

    awwww seems like you guys are naturals! She is just adorable!!! I can’t handle it!

  • Reply Mary Murnane February 16, 2017 at 8:56 am

    She is so adorable! You are doing a fantastic job.


  • Reply Eva Perez February 16, 2017 at 7:38 am

    She’s so beautiful! You’re such a great mommy!!!

    (I’m a mommy of 2 little boys)

    xxx, Eva

  • Reply Jill February 16, 2017 at 7:22 am

    You are such a great mom to your beautiful little girl! Baby Wise was really helpful for us too and we followed the series all the way through tweens. Enjoy your date night!

    Doused In Pink

  • Reply Lauren {By Lauren M} February 16, 2017 at 6:34 am

    She is such a little beauty! You’re doing such a great job, mama!
    By Lauren M

  • Reply Erica Zar February 16, 2017 at 6:04 am

    What a beautiful little girl! You guys sure are blessed! Enjoy your date night this weekend! I hope you have a great time, you deserve it!!

    xo, Erica
    Casually Styled

  • Reply Lisa @ Daily Style Finds February 16, 2017 at 5:58 am

    What a precious little girl – I cannot believe she is 3 months already.

    Daily Style Finds

  • Reply Kelsey B. February 16, 2017 at 5:43 am

    This is such a great post! And what beautiful little babe 🙂 I can say that as a mom of four, I still have all these same thoughts! Doesn’t matter if it is matter if it is my seven year old or my almost two year old, most days my head is just spinning! Ha!

  • Reply Living on Cloud Nine February 16, 2017 at 5:40 am

    You are an amazing mom and Ivy Jean is the most precious baby girl!!! I am so over the moon for you and I know it is not always easy but the way your heart swells when you look at her, the BEST feeling in the world!!

  • Reply Rachelle February 16, 2017 at 4:46 am

    you are the best mom never doubt that and she’s the cutest little thing. Enjoy your date with Russ this weekend.


  • Reply yuka February 16, 2017 at 3:25 am

    ohh my goodness! she is soooo beautiful!


  • Reply Mes Voyages à Paris February 16, 2017 at 3:07 am

    The cutest post I have seen today!
    Mónica Sors

  • Reply Violette February 16, 2017 at 2:43 am

    She is so cute! I’m sure you’re the best mom and that’s so cute how you’re talking about you recent mom life!


  • Reply Currently Wearing February 16, 2017 at 2:11 am

    OMG, she is so beautiful, Amy. Enjoy how small she is now. I know it is not easy at the beginning. Our daughter is 9 months old now and she already has her own little character:-)) Ivy is such a blessing!

    How are you feeling? Do you get some sleep during the day when she sleeps?


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